Last weekend, I celebrated my 22nd birthday. I decided that this would be a good opportunity to write about several thoughts and pieces of advice that I have for my year ahead. Maybe they can offer a little something to you as well.
Transition has been a constant theme this year. This is my last year of college, my last year before I get married, and my last year living at home with my parents. This summer, my whole world is about to change. So where does that leave me right now? Sometimes, it’s hard for me to find value and meaning in the present moment when everything I am doing is for the future (planning a wedding, searching for jobs, preparing to graduate, etc.). It’s even more difficult because I lack the control of living in my own space, like I previously had in college up until this year. I feel like I have to put myself on hold for another eight months before I can have the lifestyle I’m searching for.
I don’t want to let transition take over the joy of living everyday. I’m going to try my hardest this year to give value to this transition period: to embrace my classes, to enjoy being engaged, to appreciate the people around me, and to thrive in my own way.
Love. Focus on the love you are receiving, not the love you are not receiving.
On What Really Matters:
In a university atmosphere, where everyone is young and trying to discover and define themselves, I need to remember to love the person that I am. No matter what. There will be good days and bad days, successes and failures, lovers and haters, but as long as I am true to myself, nothing else matters. Finding other people who love you the way you are is an extra bonus! Nobody should have to explain why they are the way that they are. Nobody should have to change essential parts of themselves to feel like they belong. Nobody should feel like they are being placed in a box so that people can figure them out. We all love uniquely. That’s what really matters.
My marketing professor sited a study that claimed that the average American spends 4 hours per day on social media. That’s over one full day a week.
It seems to me that I don’t want to spend this much time on social media, whether or not that statistic is accurate. This year, I’m trying to realize that I have time for whatever I want to have time for. I don’t know why we get the impression that we don’t have control over our own 24 hour days. We choose what jobs, classes, friends, hobbies, etc. fill our time. If there is anything truly lacking, I have the ability to make time for it. Hence, blogging. Hence, taking the creative writing class that I want to take. BOOM.
Do any of these thoughts strike you, in particular? Or do you have anything to add that I didn’t think of? Please leave me a comment.